I need some advice talking to girls, from the view of a stutterer.?

This feels really fuckin lame talking about this on yahoo answers, but I don’t know where else to go. Anyway, im a 21 year old college student, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, only have made out with a handful of girls. I think im pretty good looking, Im on the lacrosse team, and I have a good amount of friends. I have a stutter that I have had for my whole life. Its not severe like you see in the fucking true life videos, but its always around and I feel like it hold me back, especially with women.

Let me give you some background of where im coming from. I have been overweight my whole life, until this past summer I took up p90x (which I highly recommend) and lost a tonf of weight and re-made my body physically. So basically, until this year, I have been virtually untouchable for most girls. Who wants to date an overweight, stuttering kid that chills in the corner of parties because he is too afraid to talk to strangers because of his stutter? Not many. So I have gotten a late start to say the least.

I went to an intensive 2 week stuttering therapy program over the summer. In the beginning, it really helped – but it is so difficult to maintain for a while. I use it now to get out of “blocks”. But that hesitation to talk to people has never gone away. I have spent my entire life conditioned to shy away from new social situations – its hard to just be this super outgoing person now.
Then there is actually talking to women. Most of you, without a speech impediment, have no idea what it is like to not be able to say things whenever you want. I’m the opposite – I have no idea what its like to be able to talk at will. I met this guy at speech therapy who got a stutter from a traumatic car accident – he was easily the most bitter and depressed person there. Unlike us, he knew what it was like to speak, and he had that beautiful gift stripped away from him.

Sorry for rambling. Back to talking to women with this shit – I feel like I am so focused on “not stuttering” at all costs rather than being a cool, sociable, attractive guy. I am so focused on not looking stupid that I usually end up acting a bit odd. No one ever really finds out I stutter – I have developed so many tricks and methods to avoid it, like switching words, that most people don’t notice. In fact, when my friends found out I was going away for therapy, then were confused as to why I was going in the first place.

If you actually read all of that, I appreciate it, because this is a pretty difficult subject to talk to parents and friends about. So why not go to complete stangers, huh? Again, I’m not a total loser or anything ; its just talking to women is my Achilles heel, because honestly, I’m proud of everything else ive accomplished in my life for the most part.

So I guess my question is, besides ranting and getting shit off my chest, would a girl appreciate it more if I stutter and be “normal”, without acting weird about it? You know what I mean? But at the same time, youre at bar, its hard to hear, and I have to talk loud and fluent and confidently – to a woman – literally impossible to not get stuck.

Thanks for your input.

How can I get buff and strengthen my bench press?

Okay…this is like my first time asking a question on Yahoo 😛 I know this question gets asked a LOT on Yahoo Answers, but I wanted a more specific response.

Anyways, I’m Asian-American (more specifically, Chinese) and within the last several months I’ve been trying to work out and get a strong upper body (mainly arms, chest, back muscles) for a variety of reasons.

I’m 16 and like 2 months, 140 pounds (gained a little weight due to mainly muscle I think) and like… 5 “10 – “11. I’ve always been pretty tall/skinny for my age, definitely taller than most asians and thin. I guess I’m kinda athletic, not compared to the atheletes at my high school, I’ve done sports when I was a kid, and have done martial arts for a few years (just restarted a month ago) and overall I think I’m reasonably athletic for an Asian bwahaha..when I say this I mean a lot of Asians I know aren’t athletic mainly because they’re kinda lazy when it comes to sports and such, of course I know some athletic Asians too..ANYWAY –

So basically my genetics (in my opinion) let’s see… my dad is sort of athletic, when he was in high school (back in Hong Kong lol) he did track (long distance running) and played basketball, he used to be 5″9 but now he’s shrunk a little…he’s actually short for his family tree believe it or not.
My mom..is quite unathetlic – she’s 5 feet tall (her side of the family is short) and has flat feet and anemia, the first of which I inherited somewhat (I have pretty low arches in my feet) but thankfully I don’t have anemia….I think my blood cells are slightly smaller than average but nothing serious.

So like, when I first tried bench pressing at my friend’s house, I could only do about 75-80 pounds, this was like my first time benching anything, so yeah… I’ve been doing perfect pushups (those little handle things) for a few months now, they’re pretty good, but my arms have only been toned and sometimes when I work out hard my biceps/triceps get kinda big, but they lose some mass by the next day. So my dad recently got us membership at a good gym, it has treadmills and such (for him) and pretty much all the weights/machines I would need to get buff. So I tried the bench press, I tried 95, could do 10 reps on that but my form is kinda unbalanced. I could probably go up but I haven’t tried yet. My friend told me (he can bench like 180-200) that to increase your bench press/rip your muscles, you do a weight that you can do 5 reps on, then increase it so you can do 4, then 3, then 2, then 1. Is this a good method? Also for my diet – I eat some meat but probably not nearly enough protein that would help me get buff quickly.

So yeah, I’m pretty weak I guess, I just recently put on weight (due to puberty and such) because I used to be very thin, so maybe my muscles haven’t caught up with my height/weight yet…you know what I mean. Well, I just wanted some advice on how to increase my bench press steadily, so I have a direction to go for the next couple months when I go to the gym.

My friend who has the bench press at his house (he’s Filipino) at first we were about the same, he worked out more so he could do like 90 at first, got up to like 105 within a couple months (he wasn’t working out hard) but a couple days ago he told me he tried 118 and could do it quite easily (10 reps at least) and said he’s gonna try 125-130 soon. He’s a little taller and about the same weight as me I think. I’ve always been more all-around athetlic than him, but he’s getting buffer…hehe

So yeah…advice?
Thanks Knuckles :D, other than nutrition I’m really looking for a good work out plan, so a detailed work out plan would be much appreciated

My brother is so mean to me?

He is 18 years old and I am 12. Whenever I beat him at video games, he loses his temper and tries to body slam me. I always do try and fight with him and easily hurt him but he bruises me. My testosterone level is 358. So I always try and fight him but he overpowers my weight and muscles. This Sumer I was just visiting him. How do I pummel him and even though he is stronger. He always gets his friends to take me down but yet his friends are scared of me. How do I beat the crap out of my brother. And he has Key Logger and can figure out my password to Yahoo and see this question I asked. I told my parents and they don’t trust me so this time should I punch his chest to make him lose his breath then take him down.